Betsey, I know you have a point on my mom. But my brothers have each stepped up and offered one really nice thing that made a material difference to me. My friends check in regularly to ask how I'm doing. Even my dad asks how *I* am before he asks about the kids. My mom does none of these things. If D12 (or the boys) ever go through a huge life event, I don't expect to tell them how to run their lives (as she did in the early days) and then spend all our conversations telling them how wonderful the other members of the family are and about all the progressive dinners I go to.
WRT STBX, I'm mad because I'm getting about 5 hrs of sleep a night, no exercise, and I'm working really, really hard to keep the house constantly in show condition. I get 48 hrs off from the kids once every three weeks (because he hasn't been taking even his every other weekend weight). I'm spent. And the reason I'm in this condition is that I'm dealing with the consequences of his choices (including buying a house that needs work in a new state after he had started an affair). I'm not going to stop being mad until I'm living with the consequences of my own choices, which hasn't happened yet. I know my timeline is really long, which is part of the reason I'm so exhausted, but as much as I'd like to be moving forward I still have to wrap up what's left of "our" life.
I do honestly just want this done so I can put my focus where I want it. But I have to finish cleaning up this mess first.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
