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#257875 03/18/04 06:31 PM
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Hey AkGal,

Haven't been on here this week as I the big conference I am planning is tomorrow. Wanted to drop by and post before you head off to treatment.

Remember, this time is about you. It is not about seeking sobriety so that things turn around with your H. Seek the sobriety so you can start anew, be 100% for your son, and be independent in your life. And if things turn around with your H, then that is an added bonus!

I am so proud of you for doing this. And I am glad that the community service idea may work for you! I imagine that you will have many resources available to peruse at the treatment center. It may be a good place to do some initial research.

I would approach it like you do a book. Come up with the focus of the presentation (video, brochure, whatever) and then make an outline. Know your audience, etc. all applies for this too.

If you are doing this for junior and senior high students, you know they feel invincible and yet are very vulnerable as alcohol is a gateway to drugs for many. Stress issues like appearance, bad breath, body odor, inability to have sex (scary for young males and old alike!), unintended pregnancy, etc. These are immediate consequences that may make them sit up and listen. Then cover the long term physical, mental, social and financial consequences. Probably most important is a good hook at the beginning of the presentation that makes them pay attention.

Anyway, just some ideas for you to ponder. Like I said, I bet they have a library that would hold some great ideas and lots of stats about teens and drinking. I bet you could put together a really neat Power Point presentation with video clips and set it all to music that appeals to them. In one of my old jobs, we had someone do this on teen pregnancy and it rocked the house!

Take care of yourself. I'll pray for you and wait to hear from you when you return to the BB.

(((((HUGS)))))


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Do not call H, do not call H, do not call H.

Hope I helped.


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#257877 03/18/04 06:46 PM
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Ak,

I made it my policy to NEVER call h at his place in the evening! I always call leave message while he's at work. That way I keep from putting myself in a position where I start to WONDER where he is and with whom!

Save yourself the trouble and do not call him in the evenings. Or any other time you KNOW you will not get a response. This is to save you the trouble of expending energy on assumptions!

Cindy

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Hey Ak,

As impossible as it is, we know we have to focus on us. Right now I'm having trouble with this, but must turn my energy inward as you must.

The spouses made a decision; we need to make some for us.

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Totite, Cindy, Rottzilla, Bwriter,

Thanks. Thanks so much for posting and supporting me. Some days I feel so alone except for the bb and folks here. Am tired of it. Can't wait to get treatment and jail time over with so I can feel like I am starting my life over finally. Right now I feel like I am spinning my wheels and going nowhere fast. It's painful at times.

Gonna go watch a movie.

Akgal


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Quote:

Right now I feel like I am spinning my wheels and going nowhere fast. It's painful at times.




Ak,

This seems to be our purpose at the moment; a purpose most difficult to define and to measure and to realize why we are being tested.

I hope there is a place on the other side of this we are supposed to be.

hang in

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Good Morning Akgal,

How was the movie last night?

Sending you positive thoughts for a wonderful day.


Pam

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so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
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Same here. What was the movie you saw?



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#257883 03/19/04 02:02 PM
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AG,

One of the last 12 Steps to recovery from alcoholism is to pass on the steps to someone else who struggles. Right now, you have an opportunity to help someone else. Cath (leftandknowwhy) is struggling with her alcoholic H's behavior. Go and share with Cath. Help her to understand the pain and struggle of being an alcoholic so that she can better understand her H.
T2

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T2 what a wonderful suggestion!! AG could really help Cathy!


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