Advice Welcome, separating and W moving out soon..

[Zues126]

Glad you posted again. Yes, you'll be ok. You'll be overwhelmed again many days. But there is a limit. When I quit smoking I just told myself there was a finite number of cravings I had to get through, it wasn't forever, so each one was one less before I was free.

On that note, are you still not smoking?

I really want to see you post more and talk more about what you're learning about your personal growth in regards to your goals.

Listen- if you go back and read my thread from day one you'll see that I've written enough material on the subjects of my struggles (porn, desire, perfectionism, fantasy, control, co-dependency, resentment, avoidance, and so much more) I could've written a series of books. People that have read my threads have contributed a lot to my internal sorting, and have also gained from some of my breakthroughs. At this point the people that have been around for a while really know who Zues is, what I believe, and have a good feel for my personality, strengths, weaknesses, and my journey.

I don't know much about you other than you're kinda quiet, you are trying to quit smoking, you're a bit reserved or emotionally detached (probably a bit of an avoider by living in your head), and that you're starting through the early stages of the grieving process (yes, unfortunately there is a long road ahead).

I'm concerned if you don't play your cards right that road will get even longer. Because if you don't sort through these things it will be unresolved, the emotions will keep welling up with triggers for many years, and your patterns will lead you through the same road. Not to mention it won't attract your WAW back or position you for success should that happen.

So- what breakthroughs have you had in the last few weeks? I think the fact you haven't gained from IC is a flag that either they're a quack or that you're not approaching this with enough gravity. Step it up Jedi. You can't just escape the rancor pit without spending a lot of time levitating star ships out of a swamp first (or whatever).