What I basically said about Cali's recent post is that he has asked some really good questions for you to reflect and ponder over. We are all here for personal growth in recognizing some of our patterns that we sometimes aren't fully aware of at times.
As I have said previously, continue on the path you've been on for the past several weeks/months which is polite, cordial, and respectful. That HAS been working. Your W's spews are in reaction to her own loss of control over the D process. It is all on her. NOT YOU.
Continue ahead with the course you've been on and do not deviate from it. It is working...contrary to some sporadic spews and some twisting of words from W.