Hi Pink. Please , please take this post how it's meant. You know I care for you and would never intentionally cause you pain.
You are letting your anger control you You have to get this under control before you decide anything.
I don't think your H is meaning to cause you this much pain. He might be trying to get a reaction out of you but from what he has said before I'm not sure he means to really hurt you.
Re the text , I would ignore it. Let him text again.
Pink my friend this is all a nightmare and it's not something you can avoid. The only way to happiness is to go through it.
Your boys have a wonderful mum who will guide them through this time with love and compassion. An I/C will offer then professional guidance and if they have 1/2 the strength of their mum they will get through this
I cannot defend your H and no one can. He is going through his own issues and needs to resolve these himself. Like a lot of WAS he can't see the damage he is causing to his family and thinks he is finding himself You have to let him go and have no expectations that you would have had from him in the past Don't expect anything from him anymore and then you can't be hurt (. Easier said than done )
Pink. You have suffered enough. Give it over to God and let him deal with it In anyway he sees fit Pink has no control over this. You are obviously and mind , caring , loving person that brings great insight and advice to lots of us on here. Your H is an idiot and doesn't deserve you.
Please know that you are cared for on here and in the real world. You are a person of great worth and value and H cannot take that away by his actions
Relax back for now distract yourself and spend time with your wonderful S"s
Post often Pink , to give more people time to help and support you
