Oh Caliguy I am not sure I understand what you are saying.
I do not mean to be dense but are you saying I should be more friends for the "new relationship" between W and myself for the benefit of the kids? Again, she wants to be "best friends" "nothing will change and I am I will only co parent with you. Maybe co parent with her will mean we have to communicate more? The moe I try and communicate with her, the more she shoots me down and I guess I just have to get over this. Is that what you are saying? Based on our last convo where she is spewing spittle and saying "You don't get this do you!"
For example - it feels like I am all alone in this - if I get sick, if there is a car problem, if one of the kids gets sick, so many things to go wrong here. So in that sense, I have to be the the one that plays happy here for the greater good of the kids. I guess that is my answer.