Ok ... lets look at this here, in the safety of a place where no one is judging you at all....here.
Are you in this instance being controlling>? I do recall we had something that I called you out about where it seemed more about winning than the actual issue ..... Does your W have a legit point here ... HONESTLY? Is this something you can work on .. not so much for your M, but for you .. maybe the new relationship regardless of who that is. Mirror work here Heavy .. this is where true growth stems from.
My W ... yeah ... big time control freak and manipulator ... evidently my hints and nudges about this went unnoticed over the years, but from the intel I gathered OM had issues with this so now W is 'working on it' .... Thanks OM ... lol.
Sure you could give in here, if its for the kids, or if there is a logical reason and it makes sense ... if you have dug in on this issue just because you have seemingly given ground everywhere else ... well we both know that's not a reason to 'win' here.
I only say hold ground on your boundaries .. on what is important to YOU .. regardless of the games your W and kids may play or how they twist this. W may toss the "you call all the shots" line at you just because its a button ..... my W did though I truth darted her pretty badly one night and showed her how in our M it was always her way.
For me it was a bigger issue, Conflict/Avoiders and Fixers such as myself at times have to hold ground on silly things .. like where we will meet for drop-offs just to regain some respect. (At one point W thought I should take S to her place on her pick up nights as its to far .... I moved 7 blocks away from our house ... she moved 25 minutes away)
Lets think this out ... could be a good 180 .. but not if it sacrifices what is better for the kids, nor your boundaries as she will no doubt press for more.
