Your words couldn't have been more timely. Apparently my ww went on a HUGE FB rant last Saturday (when I wasn't in town) about how pissed she was and how people shouldn't F with her, etc. From talking with her sister, that rant was about me! Having no contact with her, she "was told by people" that I had been going out and she didn't like that. Not sure if it was financially or if it was the thought of me moving on to someone else or both.
I have been wondering for weeks if she was having a hard time with things or missed me or still cared about me, etc. While I still have no idea, I have always believed that when someone gets so upset without being provoked, they still must have feelings or care.It's hard to be hurt by someone you are indifferent towards.
I am going to feel my ww out after we tell the kids tonight. I plan on asking her if there's something she needs from me, like cleaning out my things from the house or talking about finances. I realize this may go against what others have said, but my thought is she is hurting. I AM NOT TRYING TO FIX HER or make everything better. But, to not offer to relieve some stress from someone who is clearly hurting (even if self-inflicted) is not me. It feels like spite, anger and hurt that I need to hold onto to stay in that mindset and again, that's not me. I have to at least offer and let her know if she wants my help with things, she needs to communicate with me and not shut me out.
Once done, the ball is in her court an she can decide from there. But, to just ignore it and not offer any type of help, goes against the person I am and want to be.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
