Read some online today via Amazon. Can't really get it until W is away as she likes to search my post (that normally isn't a problem, but her post gets spirited away when she just used to leave it for me to open).
I got a kind of reaction I was expecting. I was calm, she was so angry. I told her I wasn't going to argue with her if front of the kids and she told me I was being condecending for talking calmly. She's said that before. It is funny how they re-write history though. She brought something up from 2003 when she worked a lot to get her business started and I had some time off (only worked six days instead of seven) as I'd been working long hours (60/70 per week) to see us through. Apparently, that was me being lazy (just doing 45 instead).
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Read some online today via Amazon. Can't really get it until W is away as she likes to search my post (that normally isn't a problem, but her post gets spirited away when she just used to leave it for me to open).
I got a kind of reaction I was expecting. I was calm, she was so angry. I told her I wasn't going to argue with her if front of the kids and she told me I was being condecending for talking calmly. She's said that before. It is funny how they re-write history though. She brought something up from 2003 when she worked a lot to get her business started and I had some time off (only worked six days instead of seven) as I'd been working long hours (60/70 per week) to see us through. Apparently, that was me being lazy (just doing 45 instead).
Oh yea. I hear ya. Doesn't matter what you think is true or what she thinks is true. It's her perception.
Anyway you need to read the book. I still say you are in a better position than you think so get it delivered to your work. Amazon make that bit very easy.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
And that's why NDY is here. Yea. Btw you can get a used one for next to nothing.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
SD came back from work yesterday. Told her about W's plans to not be here for her birthday. She went ballistic and marched straight off to W to make her point.
Interesting few weeks ahead, I think.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Next time let your W tell SD herself. Keep yourself out of it because now you are going to get a spewfest.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yip. Expect it to get worse. Did you see Matt's response on Upnorth's thread about the WW and how they HAVE to prove to everyone how uber happy they are? Wonder if deep down they really believe that?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yeah, I read that. I believe that to be the case even though she has started to admit it isn't going to be easy. Two weeks at the Wolf's Lair should cement those feelings.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Huddy, I am not in place to give valuable advice. Too much of a mess myself. Keep going, we will make it with or without our spouses.
((( Huddy )))
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
