Huddy - I'm not sure but have you read the book yet? My recommendation of you haven't is to get it and read is ASAP. If you have, it's time to start over. It's time to set some real, concrete goals. I read your threads and it feels like you're throwing everything at the wall trying to get your W to "wake up".
But as you read countless times on here, that doesn't just HAPPEN. You need to take your focus off of her and everything she says and everything she does and put it on YOU. You can't TELL her you're the better choice; SHOW her you're the better choice. CONSISTENTLY.