Do I finally accept it's over and begin the process of moving past her?
Yes.
What you're missing is that you can't control WAS, she may never come back, if she does someday it will likely be years not months. We use the word detachment, but yes, what's actually going on is the grieving process for the loss of your M. It is gone. This doesn't mean you suddenly burn bridges or try to control the future. Really you shouldn't do anything differently. But definitely time to let go further and further.
Oh- my WAS spewed as much venom as anyone. Now she's calm, polite, professional, and casual. Has been for a few months. I'm fine with that because it's best for the kids. But I want to point out that just because they're in a 'fog' doesn't mean they'll want to R when they come out of it.
Moment of silence, then shift the focus back to you.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
