That lady singing - is she fat?

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It hurts that she absolutely does not see it as rejection or betrayal. It hurts that she considers that she has been the victim this whole time and needed the support from her friends and OM. It hurts that it seems so normal to her. What does she think I have been doing while she has been going through this "worst" time in her life. I haven't been screwing another woman and falling in love, for support.

I have lost faith that she will ever, eVER see it.

She's saying the same thing, "I have lost faith the Py will ever EVER see how deeply he hurt me, why I had to leave to protect myself, and that while I'm sad about how things played out I needed help from others to get out of a spot that was killing me. And that I love OM because he supported me through the darkest days of my life like I believe a man should do."

You're awfully sure you're right and she's wrong. There's a big difference between remaining faithful and being a good H, and DBing for a few months doesn't mean you are a different man and suddenly have God on your side (also, there's a difference between DBing and criticizing WAS's behavior on a forum for validation). The righteousness and judgment doesn't strike me as much of a 180. Especially when not long ago you were taking accountability for your actions and feeling humility, regret, and shame for your shortcomings.

Look, I'm not suggesting I think her behavior is justified or noble. And I felt exactly the same at 5 months in as you do now. I get it. So vent away. Just make sure once you get the support from us you need (and you have mine!) to get through a difficult night and you calm down you go back to working on your behavior and attitudes. I know you'll agree when I say you have a long way to go (as do I), and I care about you too much to sit back and watch you fall into the trap of thinking your new narrative is any more real than hers is. Take care brother.