Ripken - WW filed for Divorce and I moved Out #5

[Ripken8]

Ugh. First couple of interactions with my wife in a week and they sucked!

She texted me out of the blue to give her a call because it was about the boys. So I did thinking it was an emergency. She said we need to think when we are going to tell them that the house will be up for sale, I'm not moving back and we're getting divorced. Our oldest asked today and ww was caught off guard and said I wasn't moving back and that we weren't divorced yet.

When she told me this I told her I was busy, I was. And that I would need to talk with her about this later. I called because I thought it was an emergency.she got upset, yelled she was sorry for interrupting and we hung up.

I called her later and we talked. She said she is always stressed and doesn't sleep well. Said she just wants this to be done. Said she has third parties like her lawyer and real estate agent communicate with me because they are good at their jobs and can explain things better than her. She also said its just easier.

She said that she feels like she's being played and that I don't ever communicate with her either. I can go out and live my life and do whatever and she's stuck with the house and everything that needs to be done with that.

I tried to listen and validate. Told her it's not easy for anyone. She asked what I wanted her to communicate about. We do about the boys, she asked if I wanted her to about the house. I told her I'm not sure what I want about a lot of things. However the more animosity builds and no communication happens, the more it feels like we'll go down a path where all well be is enemies and hate each other. That something I'm not sure I want and I told her that.

She really didn't say much to that. We did agree to tell the kids tomorrow. That won't be fun, but looks like it has to happen.

Also other told me of a Facebook post that happened yesterday where om told ww "love you, babe". So, very sure that's not over.

So, for those keeping score at home, she is still having affair. She filed and is pursuing divorce. She put house up for sale. She is pushing telling the kids. She is ok with no contact.

I'm trying to feel ok with all of this and remember the positives I'm having with myself. However, I've seen zero positive changes or anything good happening in my relationship with her since db.

I've changed and getting better and she has been colder, more hurtful and distant than anyone I cold have ever imagined,