Just Fishin'

[mahhhty]

It was really nice signing in quickly yesterday to see the outpouring of support. I'd like to thank everyone again.

It's been a busy couple of days, here is a quick recap.

Thursday was my S's birthday. I took him and his sister to a Children's Museum. It was great. We had a wonderful time. I was a little nervous going into the city with two younglings but we had a blast! Thursday night X came over, and brought dinner. We opened presents, had dinner then had cake. That was the first time we spent significant time together in roughly 6 or 7 months. Parts were slightly awkward, others were fine and some were fun. My S had a really hard time with her leaving, and my D asked repeatedly why she wasn't staying. They still associate her home as our home. Here.

Friday she picked up the kids. During the pickup I saw a CT newspaper with the sports section pulled out and on top. She works in CT, but is not a sports buff. Obviously, there could be many reasons for the paper. But my mind goes towards the idea of an OM. But that doesn't matter.

Saturday was the party here. It went very well. I felt as if she stayed in her comfort zone, which is understandable (stayed closed to her family). Her family approached me at different times to say how it was great that we were all together. There was definitely an interesting dynamic. I had a long talk with my older sister after the party and she said that if anyone didn't know they would think it was just another party at our house, and she said that I seemed really happy. So from my perspective mission accomplished. I think I accomplished exactly what I was supposed to.

Today I spent the day picking up and recouping. Then at 9 PM I get this text from her "Sorry for the last minute notice, but I finally secured my dad, BIL and BIL's friend's trailer to get the washer, dryer, and treadmill. Can they come by tomorrow evening for those? Sorry, they have been dodging me for months on this."

I thought about many different responses, how it was rude and disrespectful to ask for such a request the night before, less than 24 hours. But then I realized it does not matter. So I responded with "No. I will not be home." Simple and to the point. She has not written back. Nor do I expect her too. She didn't get her way.

I was thinking about me during this process. I lost three close relatives/family friends, got divorced, started a business, gained a lot of emotional intelligence, new found thirst for life, etc etc etc. During this she has not once asked me a question about me. How are you? or anything close. I think that is sad, but it is only fuel to help me detach and create a business relationship with her.