Thanks for stopping by LT, 2B, pbetra and AJ. Well, the hearing day came and my lawyer told me that there was no reason for me to go. Everything was signed and ready and since she was the one who filed, she was the only one who had to show. So, Tuesday morning while I'm trying to work I get "emergency" calls and texts from the EX. She tells me that the court "needs" the address of the payroll service that my company uses so they can take the cost of half of D15's health insurance and school lunch money out of my check. That was NEVER part of the agreement and now she was saying that it is what "must" be done by law. She was all upset because the D can't be final until I give her the info and she needs it NOW. I call my lawyers office and he wasn't in and no one there knew what to do. My boss uses a service and I have no idea what is needed and to find out while she and the court waits was just plain stupid.
If it was spelled out in the agreement then I would have done the work to give her the info. I have a job to do and I couldn't drop everything to just work on that. I spoke to my boss and he said they have to send him paperwork that he will fill out and send to the court and the payroll service. I sent her the address of the office I work for and never heard back after that. I suppose it must have worked or I would have heard more. It just shows how bad my lawyer has been through this as he should have warned me about this. So, my half of my D15's insurance....just her....is $309/mo! That's $618 a month for ONE girl who never goes to the Dr except for school physicals! AND the plan my EX picked has a $5,000 ded. that MUST be met before they pay for ANYTHING. No scripts, no Dr appts., not until the $5,000 is met. It's the worse plan she could have picked and not much cheaper than the lower ded. plan but she wouldn't listen to me when she picked. I'm now able to get insurance on the open market and I'll bet I can find a better plan cheaper than that for both D15 and myself. Whether my EX lets me put her on a plan with me is another story. I really don't believe that just D15 is that much a month.
Since Tuesday D15 got her wisdom teeth out Friday. My ex sent a video of her right after where she was all loopy and she was saying how she wants to be a Mermaid and upset because there's not enough water in TX. It was so funny! I'm glad my ex was nice enough to send it to me.
Last night I got a call from D19 (she'll be 20 next Sunday!) saying her boyfriend pulled another one of his crazy stunts. They were supposed to move to a new apartment today and her cousin was visting from out of state to help pack. Well he got angry because she couldn't get on a flight she was on stand-by for and he had to go pick her up (a 20 min. drive). Then when they got back he refused to help pack and when they asked him to take something down they couldn't reach, he got pissy and ripped it off the wall, broke the shades on the window and spilled sodas that were on the table all over and he refused to help clean up. When D19 got on him to help he grabed his keys and drove off saying he "feared for his safety". He is 6'4" 300#'s and my D is 5'0" tall! He just left her there without everything packed and texted he didn't want to live with her anymore. He called his mother who pays his rent and gives him money because he's supposed to be going to school and she came down from 300 miles away this morning and told my D that she can't live with him anymore!
Now she has to quit her job, lose her pet and come live with me without any means to get to a job because she doesn't have a car and I can't afford to help her and her mom, who can, won't. She won't live with her mom as they don't get along since before she left. She is better off without this guy but I really feel for her and wish there was more I could do. The story behind all their problems is long but let's just say this 22 year old is acting just like an MLCer! He hasn't been going to school, doesn't work, drinks too much and has been on ADHD and depression meds his whole life which he stops taking every few months and freaks out. It's just that the timing with all that is going on in my D19's life with the D, her sisters problems, her mothers acting out....she doesn't need this in her life right now. They have been together 3 years and lived together for a year (since the week after her mom left). He expects that she will still be his "girlfriend" after pulling this! He needs real help and without D19 there he's going to implode. She is the only person who has kept him from totally self destructing.
D15 is doing OK. I worry about the fact that she is going to have too much down time this summer as she doesn't have anything lined up and with moving back and forth between homes, it's just really hard. Maybe with her sister around she will feel better as that's been one of the things she has said she misses, having her older sister to spend time with and just be with her. I'm going to try my best to find a way to help D19 get a car. I will speak with my parents and her grandmother and see if they may be willing to loan her some money towards an older model vehicle. Her mom has already said she won't help unless D19 lives with her and D19 refuses to ask my FIL for anything as she knows what a evil bastard he is.
On top of all this I'm still trying to get my work life in order and try and find time to get all the IRS stuff done. I also must find time (and money) to go out and get back to living my life. Having my D19 at home will help with that as she can help with my dog and I can go out after work without worrying that I have to go home first to let him out.
Since my W left there has been so much flux, so much change. New job, problems with both my D's, things going wrong with the car and the house, at work....I just can't get in a rhythm with my life. I really must find some new rhythm, some "normalcy" so I can just get things on an even keel. For now I have to find a way to help my D19. Her entire life has just been turned upside down by an idiot who is unable to function, who is in crisis and man, I know how that [censored]!
