Kids wanted to stay with my parents tonight. I had them double check with h so that he can't accuse me of anything. He said fine. I came home because I have to work. He is not here and neither is my dog. Evidence that he hasn't slept here at all this weekend. I'm really trying not to care. Trying not to wonder. A bunch of my neighbors were hanging g out outside and gave me a weird look. May b e I'm j u st b being paranoid.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
I have caught up with all the recent posts in your thread.
Keep detaching like you were. I liked your comment in the last post: "I'm really trying not to care." I know it is very hard to do but you can detach and I can tell you are giving it your best. That's all you can do.
You come across as a very honest, caring person. You are going to make mistakes thru this process, including with your children. But your heart is in the right place and you are human, so I hope you don't "beat yourself up over it."
As for being paranoid, I have gotten similar looks from my neighbors and my wife is living with her M 3 1/2 hours away. My guess is that they are curious about your sitch and feel bad for you, but don't know what to say.
I'll dedicate a prayer for you right after I click on the "submit" button.
Plenty of *Hugs*
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Thank you. The house is so empty without the kids and the dog. I want to know where she is but I'm resisting the urge to try to find out.
Last edited by mustardseed; 06/15/1501:19 AM.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
You're welcome Mustard Seed. I do understand, my house is so empty without my W and our dog. I would want to know, too, but please do not ask. It is part of detaching.
Please hang tough -- you can do it.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Thank you Maybell. Yesterday work was a sh!show. All of my TAs are at each other's throats. Complaining about each other to the principal. Snapping at each other and the kids. The kids were off the wall.
And of course I started my morning off with more pleading. More trying to get answers I won't ever get. Getting served divorce papers by a process server at my house on Monday--even though my lawyer had already accepted service on my behalf and sent me the papers Friday had an impact. It's like he is twisting the knife getting served twice. My lawyer is baffled at the behavior of his.
That coupled with the fact that the kids were not home gave me permission to react in unproductive, crazy making ways. Still pushing button a and expecting different results.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
