Wife Still in MLC but now left #9

[AJM]

My W has been moving faster and faster and being more and more awful since the day she lashed out and told me that my home is "unsafe" for our D15.

Huh. What did you expect her to say?? The truth? Ha. That's not really the point here, is it my friend?

It's just that it's the end, the final act of my XW's Bomb drop.

Hmm... I disagree. There's more amigo.

As of Tuesday I am done. No need to worry about "detaching", I now know my ex has decided to be my enemy. She needs me to be someone I'm not and have never been, someone evil. She has made plans several times to come to what used to be "our" home and each and every time at the last min. she refused, had some "reason" that she couldn't come. And right after, she acted angry and mean. I think she is afraid to come here. To where we lived and raised our children together. She doesn't want to see anything but what she has built in her mind. A "bad" place.

Hmm.. perhaps you are done, Matt. While you wait to see for sure, remember that every story needs a villain and it can't possibly be your ex in her mind. But I suspect there will be more "garbage" in the future that she throws your way. Seems the type.

But sooner or later she will have to face that until she learns to deal with her emotions, she will never find that joy she seeks.

Says who? My guess is that no she won't. Mine hasn't in 8 years, Matt. Not that it hasn't weighed on her. Not that the clues weren't there for her. She just adamantly refuses to see things differently. I suppose in some ways, so do I....

The pain, attachment, grief... they don't end until you say they do, Matt. Trust me on that one. One day you'll look back and wonder why you felt the need to prolong the grief. Until then, be well and let things take their course as LT suggested.

Peace,
AJ