I'll add on to what Toots said.

The NC is good in that it gives you the space and freedom to start your DB journey. So I'd recommend you stop having these conversations with your W checking on the state of your M. I'd START DBing - set goals, identify 180s, GAL, etc.

Good luck!

At BD - Me: 33 Her: 33; M: 10 T: 15; D: 6 and 3

BD: 3/25/15
S: 4/20/15
D: 11/9/15