About the OM, I am not sure. I have a hunch, but nothing solid, they are either over or on the skids based on a few circumstantial details I have gathered (OM's W TM from a few weeks back, STBX phone records show minimal contact). But, this is no guarantee of anything.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
I find this comment from W very, very interesting:
STBX then admitted that L had convinced her to select date to serve me D papers, this Monday.
This suggests that W may have been uncertain about proceeding with having you served so it took her L to convince her. Hmmmmm. In a way, this is GOOD because this tells you that W is not being really decisive about going forward with having you served.
You would want to keep this nugget in the back of your mind for this is a very important clue here. Now, when you meet with your L, tell him/her what transpired and ask him/her to drag out the D proceedings for as long as possible. This way, it will give you a chance to DB your W who seems to be re-thinking her decision to D.
I definitely think STBX has a lot of uncertainty. I was a little surprised that she could be swayed by her L so easily. But, I believe she has other parties heavily impacting her decisions (MIL, work friends, sister).
After I left the late lunch with STBX and the kids, I proceeded to go out and GAL. I decided that I had just spent time with the kiddos so I didn't need to call and talk with them. Plus, I didn't really want to talk with STBX again yesterday. Later, STBX TM'd some goofy accusation about an innocent Facebook post I made the day before. (STBX bought me a certain record for a gift a few years back and I was critiquing some of the songs on this record on Facebook. STBX assumed that I was doing this because it was a gift that she got for me. Get over yourself!! The thought never crossed my mind). Of course, I didn't reply to this TM.
A few minutes later, STBX calls me but I let it go to voicemail. STBX leaves a message but it is of D4 talking to me. I found this to be sweet. Then, just after midnight, STBX calls again. I didn't answer this call either.
I'm not sure why she would want to communicate so much with a man that you just told was going to get served D papers on Monday. Anyway, I think I am going to take today kind of easy just because I feel like I need it/deserve it. Even though I know it's coming, I suspect getting served will still be tough to deal with. The good news is that I get to pick up the kiddos today at 2pm. I think we will try to do something really fun to keep my mind of everything.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
