Eirinn, sending positive thoughts your way. It sounds like you are still living with H, but in separate bedrooms, right? If so, I understand how hard this whole process is. I am finding it hard to detach.
That is insane that your H invited inlaws, but you ended up having to entertain. That is nice of you and shows your character. It is certainly not your responsibility, but was what your higher self wanted to do. Kindness is such a key attribute of a woman that only a fool would leave! So where was H all this time?
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015