I am sorry that you are feeling utterly lost right now after losing your ratties. Mourn them. Then honor them. Then be happy.
I too lost two dogs to cancer and I have decided not to get them for a while. That was good because it freed me up to go out more often as I did not have the obligation to go home at a certain time to feed them or worry about them if I had to be away for some length of time.
I had so much freedom and I made the most out of it. Met many friends, traveled, and experienced many cool things.
Originally Posted By: tadpole1025
Last night, I wanted to sit in the shower with the lights out like I used to right after XW left. Her MLC really did a number on me I'm afraid. Messed me up.
Wow. It is still about how she did this to you many, many years. You're giving XW waay too much power over your life. That's no fun at all.
You are the director of your own life. You are the prop person, you are the casting director, you are the makeup person, you are the stage manager.
You live in Arizona, right? Get out and join some fun, cool clubs....hiking club, birdwatching club, whatever strikes your imagination.
I have a family member who has never been married and recently retired not too long ago. She keeps herself busy by volunteering at the local food pantry two times a month, participates in a specialized craft club that meets weekly, and tries to meet up with friends for lunch/dinner at least once a week. Recently went on a art tour at one particularly noteworthy landmark with a friend.
My point is: you NEED to be around other people. It is only done through putting yourself out there. Things don't just fall in your lap.
People won't know you if you continue to stay locked up inside your apartment all the time.
In fact, I am now planning to join a group of friends at a camping event to celebrate a friend who is a 4th of July baby. Blow out fun! How I met them...through one friend, then became friends with others in the same circle. My point being this: my life is rich because I pushed forward and put myself OUT there. Hey, I didn't get rolled over like Gromit so I must being doing something right.
I feel so bad for my boys because they have lost everything too. Maybe we are cursed.
This is a false narrative. If I were to sit down and have a chat with them, I would probably think they're living full lives with their music, friends, work, etc.
Nobody is cursed. There's no such thing. It is all in your head.
All I have to point Rose Kennedy as a shining example. She faced tremendous losses in her life and she still forged ahead with that bright, retina-searing Kennedy smile right into her ripe old age.
