Hi Toots. Thanks for posting. Finances first , when EXW left she was earning 180'euro per week and she took the children's allowance. This gives her about 280 euro a week.
We have e never discussed money since she left and as I have the kids and mortgage my income has remained mine. In fact since wife left I have reduced my take home pay by 1500 euro a month !!!!!!
All our sitchs are unique and I think mine is up there
1 EXW left the kids in my care. 2 . EXW took nothing but her clothes and car 3. EXW is denying OM to all even 8 months later 4. EXW seems very sad and has been crying for the 8 months since she left and teeling kids she wants to come home 5. EXW has reached out to my L/C knowing L/C would tell me 6 EXWs life is spiralling down and she seems to just accept it 7. EXW appears to have no Emtional support other than mine 8. EXW seems under extreme stress but does nothing to help herself 9. EXW tells me OM sleeps in her bed but it means nothing 10. EXW tells her sister that she still loves me and I'm her best friend but she's trying to find herself !!!
At this stage Toots ,I don't know if PA is a deal breaker or not. In my opinion EXW does not want to come back to me anyway so it proberbly a moot point As time goes on I presume life will settle and things will become easier. I'm down at the moment but hope to find a bit of mental peace soon.
I am sitting on sofa with D14 , with D11 and S16 across from us We have just had KFC and we are watching Taken 2. I just collected D14 from her dance crew completion and all is good in the world
Exw was here today and we spoke for about 1 min in total She took D11 for a bike ride and then out for a spin D11 was a bit sad today but is ok now and she's happy again , playing on her phone while watching film
Nice day here today Toots Plenty of good drying weather !!!!
