First post. Desperate for advice.

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You pick up right where the book starts.
You start ACTUALLY DBing.

There are always going to be mistakes and backslides and things you didn't intend perceived in negative ways. The path forward isn't always linearly positive. Brush yourself off and get back on the horse.

You can do it.

Thanks. On the horse. Running into her anger over being exposed. Seems to be the biggest obstacle to progress right now. Exposure is like dropping a nuclear weapon to break up a fist fight. I have doubts as to whether it was necessary. It did seem to break the EA fog. At the time it seemed like the only recourse. That was before I read and understood the DB principles.

I am about halfway through the DR book. We are going to have to deal with the state the marriage was in for years prior to her infidelity. That situation was 50/50 on both of us. Then she had the EAs. Then I exposed and hurt her terribly. Now we are left to pick up the pieces.

If we can rebuild, I think we can be stronger. I have doubts as to whether that will be possible. I have to keep time in perspective. It's only been 2 days since the exposure. It's still very raw.