Well, we just sat down and set timelines for separation and moving out. We will move the boys out of here this month. She wants to lease our home out in September. She's put in a contract on a dump in the hood where she plans to live in the interim (the interim in her mind being between now and when she makes enough money to justify moving in with the OW - the place has tenants now). I said as my realtor, she needed to help me find land so I can build my house. So we just went through properties on the MLS and will go out to look at them on Monday.
As much as I know we need to do this, it hurts. It also really hurts to know that this kind of move... buying land and living in a smaller place... was an option I'd put out there a year ago, but she didn't want to do it. Now I have to do it myself. Which is what it is...
I know I am supposed to be focused on this as a positive change for me. It is, I know this - for now. But I also can't help but think about how this will play out for her. Maybe this has to happen for her world to come crashing down around her even more. I will be in a nicer place than she will, more stable and settled, while she continues to frantically build this business and keep her life from spiraling out of control. And since I don't trust this OW as far as I can throw her, should they break up while all this is going on, then where will my WW turn?
It's all speculation. I really just can't believe this is happening, and I'm sad today.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
