Trying to reconcile the past with the present. I know I have a very long way to go. I found this post about the breakdown of a marriage I age written by gottman. https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/predictable-patterns-of-marriage-breakdown/ And it seems like the roadmap of what happened. I still believe if he could just see my side of things we can fix everything. He is the king of stonewalling. And we have come to the point where there is no trust. According to the article incompatibility is the back drop to this breakdown it really [censored] that I can be so in love with someone I am not compatible with. When we met it seemed so right. We wanted the same things and had the same values. Maybe we both c hanged or one of us changed, or maybe I was misled.or mms maybe we only saw what we wanted to see.
Attraction and compatibility don't always go hand in hand. And that really [censored]. I have and probably still would bend for him. His flaws were worth it. But not these new flaws. The betrayal is so much harder to let go of than anything we have ever dealt with in the past. I think he is right that there is no turning back.
Last edited by mustardseed; 06/13/1506:18 PM.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
