I like the prison guard part especially! I also think AJ's suggested reframing is good. I think it is helpful to stay focused on the bigger picture. All the bits and pieces don't matter all that much as long as the WAS doesn't want to work on the M. And if we focus on them, that just causes us pain.

It is good to regard some of that stuff as inconsequential, because doing so helps us keep moving forwards. Seeing it as consequential has us looking back over our shoulder to see what the WAS is doing now.

I don't always manage this, but I'm getting better at it!!


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus