It must be frustrating knowing that you SIL is still calling the shots. I have the same problem with LRT and NC. My W does not respond well to either. I am at the same juncture that you are right now. Hugs
M: 50 W: 47 No kids together M: 10 T: 11 BD #1: 12/14 R #1: 7/15 BD #2: 1/18 D Filed: 6/18/18 D Final: 01/28/19 Currently still in-house