I am so glad you posted an update. Wow! You have moved into your own home and it's wonderful! That's fantastic! Yep, you will see more clearly as you move along the path because you aren't directly in the eye of the storm each and every day. You will find your home is quiet and peaceful for all who enter.
You've been a very classy lady in all of this. Your wife is an utter fool.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.