I think you need to talk to your L before meeting with her.

Her accusation of mental abuse holds no merit when she in her next breath asks to meet with you in person! If she was truly concerned, she would try to avoid meeting you.

What was the deal with a sleepover? Did she want to plan a sleepover at one of his friend's on a school night he is with you at home? What's your normal policies for school night sleepovers?

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17