That lady singing - is she fat?

[Pyrite]

Py, I'm a dude. So no hugs. A high five or perhaps a slap on the shoulder. You're an Austrian, you get that.

You are one deep dude. I read your thread hear and on Smothy's thread. Wow you know how to analyse.

I looked at your sig. I can't believe how little time you've been at this but your sitch is so advanced. I get how sh!t it is when your WW is flaunting her OM. It's a boot in the balls (I know you get that).

Not sure how much you follow my sitch. But I got the best advice ever the other day when everything was going pear shaped. Wonka basically said this...

Breath

Thanks mate. It's the sentiment that counts, not the man-hug

Thanks, I think, (about being deep). I have often thought that I have come a long way, and sometimes I think even an extraordinarily long way considering the time that has passed. I credit this to several factors:

1. I think this is how I am anyway (deep). My friends this week would vouch for that. I always have been, even as a teenager 25 years ago. This can be a blessing and a curse, but I cant and won’t change it. The lows are very low, but the highs make it worth it. This could also part of the problem with my W. Now that she has this R with OM, I can almost guarantee you that he is nothing like me in this respect, and I can picture her throwing her hands up in the air “Thank God. I don’t want to think, I don’t want to be deep.” She is enjoying the superficiality of life. Which is fine, and an understandable position, but it wouldn’t work for me.
2. I am lucky (maybe) that my job is basically thinking. So it is difficult for my “boss” to say when I am not doing my job. Rather than an active distraction over the past 4 months, work has been pretty much like home, thinking about my sitch. So I have in effect lived with this for twice as long since BD.
3. Meditation. I try to meditate everyday, for at least 10 minutes. At first this was absolutely necessary to calm me. When you get back into the groove it can be used to sharpen focus in your mind, which then carries through to the rest of life anyway. When the time is right you can even bring a problem in to your meditation and focus on that. Of course you can always go for Nirvana, but that’s a bit out of my league for the moment.
4. These boards allow me another avenue to tell, consider and experience. And if you weren't all real, good people it wouldn't mean even close to half as much.

I’ve been really slack catching up on anyones’ sitch the past week or so.

“Breathe” is great advice.

Meditation is centred on your breath. In the first month I commented to IC that I couldn’t focus to meditate at all. She suggested the same, just breathe. i.e. Don’t try and control your breath, nothing, just breathe. When you can do this you can move on to focusing on where your natural breath can be felt most. After that of course you can move on to various ways of controlling your breath.

But certainly in the first instance, just breathe.