What would you do if a guy you dated and broke up with 6 years ago started having sex with another woman and went out dancing?
If you answered shrug your shoulders because it's not your concern anymore and he doesn't really have a place in your emotional life, then you're spot on.
Not saying you can get there overnight...but that perspective should be a beacon towards where you want to be from a detachment standpoint.
No, none of this makes sense. He's lost. He doesn't know himself what's going on.
Dear Zues,
Thank you so much for checking in.. You are so right and reading your words made breathing a bit easier!
I have to detach and go on, he's as you say totally lost and I can't expect to see in him the things I wish for. And this is truly breaking my heart and I need to start to heal.
Lost 9kg (more or less 20 pounds) since this mess started, due to the fact that I feel so bad. So I look great, but I need to stop this weight loss and start to feel strong and good again.
My heart wants to call him and ask about this, but I know it's no use so I'll try to keep quiet.
One question dear Zues, since I'm picking up my stuff tomorrow, don't think I'll see him but IF I do, what approach? Happy, breezy and not show how sad I am?
Big hug!! You really have a gift of putting things in writing that helps..
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
