What would you do if a guy you dated and broke up with 6 years ago started having sex with another woman and went out dancing?
If you answered shrug your shoulders because it's not your concern anymore and he doesn't really have a place in your emotional life, then you're spot on.
Not saying you can get there overnight...but that perspective should be a beacon towards where you want to be from a detachment standpoint.
No, none of this makes sense. He's lost. He doesn't know himself what's going on. I'm sure when you two ML it was because he had both attraction and some feelings for you. That doesn't mean he's going to R, or going to break it off with OW, or anything. People that are addicted to heroin have moments where they are affectionate too, doesn't mean you want to enable them or continue in a co-dependent relationship with them.
I really hope this experience is the wake up call you need to really detach. Sometimes watching new LBS's is like watching someone in an abusive relationship making excuses for their WAS, thinking that if they are forgiving and trusting their WAS will suddenly become trustworthy and appreciative for more chances, or trying all sorts of things to control their partner. Let him go on his journey. You go on yours.
Remember- if you aren't strong enough to let go of your grip on WAH, how can you expect him to be strong enough to let go of his grip on OW? Live your life with the kind of character you wish he had.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
