I've been wondering how you are. Sorry things aren't going well. I understand this feeling: "I really just want to crawl in to bed and stay there."
I think playing hostess to your H's father and step mother was very kind of you. Getting to know you, as I'm sure others will agree, this is the loving, caring "E" we know.
Should you have bailed? Since your H basically ignored them while they were by you, yes, I think you should have. But, by the time you realized your H was ignoring them, they were heading off into the sunset.
I will pray for you tonight.
xoxoxo
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15