The Dance of Uncertainty Continues...

[PigPen]

Had a great call with my DB coach this morning who pointed out that my W was possibly testing (in his opinion) me in our conversation by saying we need to start thinking about filing for D.

When I stuck to my 180 and told her that filing wasn't what I wanted but I wouldn't get in the way of her doing what she thought was healthiest for her, she immediately added a few months to the timeline of it.

He explained that that was the test. Pre DB PigPen would have asked W a bunch of questions re: why she wanted to file and then made logical and emphatic points as to why she was wrong about each one of her answers. With the hope being that if I could just get her to see how wrong she was she'd come to her senses and not file.

As shown in the last post of my old thread, my natural inclination was even to call her the next day and ask if this was how she really felt. Instead I listened to V and STFU'ed.

Many thanks to V, for the reminder.

It's starting to dawn on me how much real work DB'ing is to take to your core and really let it change you. And thus the gift of time to allow those changes to take root and not just be intellectual ideas.

GAL activities for the weekend - work in the morning, gym after that, sleep over meditation group Sat night/Sun a.m.

As I'm passing through W's town on my way home my DB Coach recommended reaching out to see if about a quick visit on the way home - we have not seen each other in 2 1/2 months.

I'll post the text I want to send tomorrow for input if someone would be so kind as to chime in.