RD, your sich seems to get more complicated every day. I do feel like you've detached a little, though, and I think that's probably best for your mental health. Four kids and a house and a job is a lot on your plate.
Every women who is lucky enough to live that long eventually goes through menopause. And some have worse symptoms than others. But, RD, your W seems to use it as an excuse for everything. I don't want sex, I want an OM, I'm a bad mother, my life is terrible.
I have a friend whose W (they are still "happily" married) uses having given birth as an excuse for not wanting sex more often. Their children are 6 and 8. Ummmm....no...that's not it.
All I'm saying is, your W doesn't seem to be willing, at this point, to take a look and see what role she played in all this. And that's a shame because you've been there waiting all along. And now you are growing weary of it. Just know that you've kept it up a lot longer than most of us would have, and we all wish you some peace here, RD.
