The key is that you don't need her to work on your M right now. You need YOU to work on YOU right now.
Also important to note: i feel a MASSIVE relief getting this off my chest. i have noticed i have been able to go about GAL better and ive been more upbeat (even just this week since the confrontation). I think this confrontation although not optimal if nothing else, did do one thing which is allow me to see that im not afraid of her. She does not own me and i can stand up for myself again like i use to. I see now i am doing everything to save the M and its up to her now to try and if not, then im a great guy and its her lose. I see know while i can yell, point, shame, nothing will change her actually emotions or willingness to be intimate except her. It weird such a horrible conversation has actually made me feel better in a way...
You guys are right. I just wanted to see if Sandi or more had in site so i wrote as much as i could from the conov. I mean we all know she has lied but like Sandi said earlier, some people will just never admit it. I know she cheated, the evidence and convo's are far too detailed regardless of what she said. i still think this had to happen and is a good thing though that it did, for me i mean. I didn't accept going to the events, she told me she planned them, so there is a difference in my mind. The wedding was planned long ago and the same with the tour. What i do take away from them is time, they tell me i have time, which is important as cadet says. So i guess i should keep Dbing? Dont pursue still right? So basically dont change what i have been trying to do...?
