Hmmm...good points about the "fairness" issue. They are the one that talk about "fair" a lot and I was trying to talk about it on their level.
My STBX also hammers the point home that I am not "fair" becuase I don't ask the kids what they want, don't let them provide any input. For example, I signed up kids for scouting, (STBX: You didn't ask the kids and they don't wan't to do Scouts, Soccer, Summer Camp option A, B or C). "You call all the shots!" is what I hear over and over and over.
But I am the parent, and I will be confident about how long is appropriate at or near bedtime. I do not want the kids to be feel pressured or in the middle. You are right about that.
Here is the deal though, when I call I don't drag it out....when she calls at bed time she drags it way out.....I looooovvvvveeee you, I miissss you sooooo much. Only 7 more days until we see each other again, you hang up first, no I will hang up first, back and forth, kind of teen age antics. This will go on and on and last night it was about 30 minutes with my S9. I do not hover over the phone and give them as much privacy as I can but come on!
It is irritating and I feel taken advantage of yet again. I must learn to be more confident about my decisions and tune her our and her drama.
I will be so glad when all of this settles down, if it ever does. I am sure it will but how long that will be remains to be seen.
I sincerely dont want to be an a$$ about it but I also don't want my kids upset at bedtime and their bedtime routine disrupted. It is indeed a fine line.
