Hi RD, sorry things are tough just now. I'm not sure I entirely agree with LC. I mean OM may be who he is, but we are all responsible for our choices. And your W/EXW may 'just' be helping OM, but they also share a bed..??
It sounds to me as though you are having a bit of a detachment tussle within yourself. You talk about jealousy and not trusting. But is it more helpful to just talk about releasing W, letting her go and seeing that she has a journey to take? I don't mean closing the door on reconcilitation, but accepting 'what is' for now?
I love my H still. However, there is a big difference between continuing to love him and entering into a R with him again. At the moment, I would not trust him and would not wish to make myself vulnerable again. But I can see if there were a big change in our sitch, I would consider us being togther again. That does get a bit harder to imagine as time goes on, but the door hasn't fully closed yet for me.
I guess what I'm saying is can you work on your own detachment further and get to a point where accepting or not accepting what W is saying/doing doesn't really matter?
(((RD)))
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
