Sweden beyond rescue it seems.

[Georgiabelle]

Tulo,

I'm sorry you are struggling and I do hope you were able to enjoy the graduation a bit. Again, I'm no expert, however, I do feel overall N/C can be a bit overrated to a certain degree. Meaning, that at some point, if you ever want to speak to person, you may have to reach out at some point. And there is also a good chance you will start to see a pursuit/distance dynamic in play although there is the occasional instance where the LBS may choose to initiate contact after a long period of n/c. Not sure if that makes sense...

However, I do agree that going dim/dark can help you start to heal which is imperative. I know it is terribly difficult, however, for each day you don't reach out to him then you may find yourself moving forward a bit. You will still have bad days and sadness, although you will finally be able to focus on what is most important-you!

Please know I'm not saying give up. I'm just saying to shift the focus on to you. I have read several articles (and peeps here say the same thing) that say the person you want intuitively knows that you are still *holding on to them* even if you aren't contacting them. It sounds bizarre, but I actually believe it. It's like the WAS (or even someone you've been in R with that ended under different circumstances) senses you want them, and when you truly let go and give it up to G-d/universe or whatever you believe, then they may start to initiate contact.

Hang in there. Sorry for any errors. I rarely proof read my posts:)