You should have said you already had plans that day, and suggested an alternative day and time. You don't want to appear to be just sitting around, jumping at her every call!
Starsky, Looking back, I should have played it that way. However, it started as a simple request to talk after I dropped off the kids on Saturday. I had already agreed to this when she suggested lunch instead. I will keep this in mind for next time!
GB, I believe lunch will be just STBX and I. Also, the restaurant has a "beachy" vibe but unfortunately, is not on the beach.
I appreciated some of your scenarios for Saturday. If I rolled up in a convertible, I don't think STBX could stop laughing!! She's the one who traded in the family SUV for an Audi haha. As far as the new music is concerned, I was always the music snob so I am always listening to new tunes. No surprises there! I would still want to dress and look sharp but fit in with the occasion. I do like the idea of a contingency plan. The wait time for this restaurant is often unbearable,
But, truthfully, I don't want to overthink the logistics too much. I'd imagine we'd leave from her parent's house after I dropped off the kids. I could recommend separate cars and mention something about plans afterwards. Nonetheless, knowing myself, I need to start preparing for the potential conversation with STBX. I won't have a problem being confident and friendly. I just want to make sure I am prepared to validate, lead where applicable, all while not pursuing. Sounds easy, right?
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
