In my last post I said I was 99.9% convinced I wouldn't want to R with W. Well, that has changed to 100%. I'm not writing this full of emotion etc but I have just come back from a straining encounter with W. The gist being she has said for weeks she will pay some money towards our household bills. Neither of us are living there now but I'm paying everything. Unfortunately she is quite the liar these days and her promises to do things fall through. I dropped the kids off today and mentioned getting some of my stuff that had been taken to MIL's by mistake. This caused W to erupt, had to deal with a load of spew. She was gloating over her A. She looks like hell, has put on quite a bit of weight, and clearly is struggling financially as she is not going to pay her share of the bills.
She swore repeatedly in front of our D and said she would like to never have to see me again! A while ago I learnt not to take these things to heart so they don't really bother me anymore. I do not like arguing with anyone so that aspect still grates but I am happy in the knowledge that life will go on, despite W's behaviour our children will see a father they can be proud of, and I do actually feel in general far happier than I have in years.
We have plans in place regarding the sale of the house. A few days ago W called me about the house and we had what was a civil conversation in which she amazingly feels she can't trust me (ironic eh?). I said how I'd been straight and honest through everything and just wanted things sorted quickly and fairly. She agreed. Her actions speak differently though.
What I do want now is for the house to be sold asap and to divorce quickly afterwards. The woman I met and married has long since left the building, a carbon copy of MIL has taken over and it's like something out of a horror film.
I believe you. When they become a non-repentant cheater and will take the lies with them "to the grave", it's like a greased piece of crap. If they had any integrity before, it's long gone. You are interacting with an entirely different person.
This person will screw you over in a heartbeat, all your work and support will be taken for granted, and you will not be respected.
I'm glad you are solid within your own frame. The woman former wife is today is not worthy of you.
