Yep. Sticking with the analogy if she's nibbling and you do nothing, eventually she'll eat your worm and swim away never to come back. You have to feel her out and act to keep it alive.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
