Vapo, You are right. I need to constantly tell myself that this won't get resolved by the morning. No matter the result, I'm months, if not years, away from a clear resolution.
Ripken, I also like the fishing analogy. It plays well with the subtle nuances of human relationships. I also hope to reel, and to "feel," her in someday.
Journaling: I had a great day today. Work was a breeze and the rain actually stayed away. When I got home, the kids and I enjoyed the revamped patio. I grilled steaks while they watered everything but the plants. MIL went out of her way to say how good the patio area looked.
STBX did call this morning after her work shift but I let it go to voicemail. When she called tonight to talk with the kids, I was in a great mood. STBX talked with D4 for about 5 minutes with me adding in editorial comments. STBX seemed pleasant over the phone and laughed effortlessly whenever I joked with D4.
Before we disconnected, STBX asked if she could talk with me some when I dropped off the kids on Saturday. I said sure. She then recommended we could grab lunch at one of our favorite beachy, casual restaurants. I said that that sounded like fun. I then wished her a good night.
So, here we go. Back to the argument about pulling away and not making myself available to STBX. I'm ready for the 2x4s! However, it just feels like STBX is pursuing me right now. I think it would be a mistake to turn the invite down. To borrow Rip's fishing analogy, STBX is nibbling right now. Maybe it's appropriate to pull in the line a bit. I don't see the harm in lunch as long as I can remain detached and go into it with no expectations.
Now, that doesn't mean I'm not going to ask you guys and gals to help prepare me for possible scenarios!
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
