I then told her I was moving on like we are done and ultimately we are responsible for only our own decisions and I got up and walked off.
I don't really understand why you would say this. I'm sure the rest of the argument was fairly unproductive, but this seems like a strange thing to say. How is she supposed to take "moving on"? That's like giving her the OK to start dating.
The way I see it, we are all "Moving Forward" with our lives. Our lives don't just STOP because of the issues with the WS. We change, we grow, we meet new people, we have new experiences, we move FORWARD.
Moving on suggests a finality with the current relationship (to me anyway). It implies that you are closing the door, burning the bridge. If that's true, fine. But I don't think that is or was your intention.
Originally Posted By: Kembo05
Please tell me I didn't f up too bad.
I don't think anyone is going to tell you that this was a positive exchange. But, learn from it, get up, dust yourself off, and do better next time.
Originally Posted By: Kembo05
She is DEAD SET on the D, which isn't a surprise to me. She is so wayward it's ridiculous. I know I shouldn't have said all that but hopefully I didn't screw up too bad. She's just so hateful towards me and it's still hard to get spewed on and just take it
Yep. All of that.
Running away and going dark isn't the solution though. Just being unavailable won't change her mind.
It's time to really examine yourself and GROW and CHANGE into the man/father/person you WANT to be. For YOU.
