Pushed Over

[Bob723]

Anyway the sun is shining here and the weather is lovely. Since I have the place to myself I shall have a cold been in the garden this evening.

NDY,

That's the spirit! Sounds great to me.

Bob

[NDY]

Just had a spewfest with my W. Funny, she said I was being condescending because I wasn't shouting and that she wanted to smash my face in. I actually felt quite calm during the 30 minute exchange.

OM must be bricking it. He'll be thinking this is more trouble than it's worth.

Recon? I dunno. He's hanging on so far. But let's see how it pans out over the next few days.

S9 won't be happy staying at MIL's for long. When he gets home he will want to stay here and I will let him know that it's ok to tell his mum he wants to stay here. In the meantime PMA, GAL and be the lighthouse.

Funny, me being here and her leaving (without S9 being taken away) feels good.

Bob

I had that beer. It was nice. The sun is still out and it's lovely. My garden really needs tydied up though. Must make time for that.

[MrBond]

So just to clarify, where does she stay during the week? When she does leave a message or text, be sure you at least read them. Then ignore the ones that aren't pressing.

Take your son somewhere new that she's not going to.

[NDY]

So just to clarify, where does she stay during the week? When she does leave a message or text, be sure you at least read them. Then ignore the ones that aren't pressing.

Take your son somewhere new that she's not going to.

I have just found out that they are at SIL's house and not MIL's house. Yipee. Means he can come here whenever. Just got a surprise visit from him. SIL only lives a few minutes away.

[CaliGuy]

S9 won't be happy staying at MIL's for long. When he gets home he will want to stay here and I will let him know that it's ok to tell his mum he wants to stay here. In the meantime PMA, GAL and be the lighthouse.

^^^ Careful with that type of stuff. Reading your sitch its obvious S9 is the middle here and I would be cautious of trying to pull/tug at him in this respect. Telling him to tell mum its ok is not what I would do as she would take that as you trying to turn S against her ... just as if she were to tell S9 that its ok to tell you he wants to live with her you would take that as her trying to get S9 on her side right?

In my case ... my S seen I was the rock, felt safer with me as there was zero drama, I had all my wits and was not in a state of fog or OP euphoria, your S9 is watching you both, he gets it .. just be his father, leave the W talks out of it ... if he tells her then that's on her, but if its seed planted by you that just shows its about what YOU want.

[NDY]

Hi cal.

Ok, never thought about it like that. I've, no wait we've always tried to be honest with him. I was of the opinion he will bring this up. So I persuade him it's ok to stay with SIL? TBH now that I know he is there and not at MILA's this will be far easier.

[Bob723]

NDY,

Glad you had that beer! I think Cal brought up a great point. When I first read your post, it didn't occur to me, either.

That's one of the many reasons this forum is so helpful. Getting different perspectives helps me all the time.

Take care!

Bob

[NDY]

Really have the urge to txt WW to thank her for being at SIL's instead of MIL's. I am so happy I saw S9. Even if it was only for a minute or two. Wrong?

[MrBond]

No not wrong.

But be sure it doesn't come across as grovelling or that she has the power to do whatever she wants.

[Wonka]

Really have the urge to txt WW to thank her for being at SIL's instead of MIL's. I am so happy I saw S9. Even if it was only for a minute or two. Wrong?

Nope. Next. Non.

I am starting to think you Brits are crazy even if your accents are "lovely."