Touch and Go?

[Sis]

Well, I reached my limit on Tuesday evening and lost my sh*t. My husband was on a legit business trip to Vegas and I received an email fraudulent alert from Chase Bank (we share an account but I have NEVER received an email regarding his activity before) someone was watching over me... the email stated there was suspicious activity on his card. Apparently he took a "detour" on his way to Vegas and went to Seattle where OW lives, he stayed for 2 days. When I called to tell him about his card he said "took a detour" I responded that I was ready to file for divorce. Sounds a bit extreme but I had given myself a year to see if there was any movement from him and June 2nd was the year mark. Although I was just starting to see some movement he's still very much in replay. I know myself and the more damage that is done the harder it will be to forgive him so I feel as though cutting ties is the best idea.
Where I really went wrong was texting the OW and given her and earful. I told her he tells me he still loves me, still kissing and hugging, not to mention dinners, drinks, golf, church etc., I shamed her and told her he was still my husband and that he was in crisis. She lied and said he wasn't there and I told her I had just spoken to him and knew he had been there. She tried to get ugly with me but I cut her off. I don't have regrets or feel ashamed. I'm not worried about him running closer to her and I actually feel good about letting her know that if he's lying to me and our kids than he's lying to her too.

I spoke to him today about money for filing and he sounds very sad and unready, didn't get into detail but told him we could talk about how to proceed this weekend. I'm not backing down, I am very angry ( for the first time all year)!! and don't feel that I have much to lose. I've already lost him...