In the UK - need help (pt7)

[NDY]

It's a UK phrase meaning getting the worse prize possible - divorce!

So, W has decided to cancel coming to the counselling session which was a bit of a bummer when I'd just paid for it. Spewfest came forth when I asked why she had decided to cancel. Some interesting stuff came out though.

First off, she said that she thought I hadn't done enough with the kids. Secondly, she thought I spent too long in the bath. Lastly, she resorted to drastic action because she thought I wouldn't listen to her.

So apart from a re-write of history for most of that, we are finally getting somewhere. W then wondered why I was spending so much time with the kids now and am I only doing that because she's leaving (no, It's just being the only real earner, I have to go to work and I did spend lots of my available time with them).

Still lots of negatives in her spew though and not interested in R. She's livid right now, but I did apologise if I'd said anything hurtful in our exchange (that went down like a lead balloon). Of course she's on the phone to SIL straight away. I've come out of the way. W also said she was talking to Council here about housing as well.

Progress of sorts.

You do realise everything is our fault, right? I got the spending time with S9 cr@p as well. Let it slide. Anyway glad you kept calm and collected.

So, I'd back of on the mediation thing for now. It's not on her agenda so leave it be. But I would start to think about the 50/50 rule with the kids.