"Yes, this is true but, remember she's trying to paint me in a bad light. By starting to say words like abuse and mental stability I've now no idea what she is capable of. I can handle waiting until the L gets back with advice. It's all in the email to him."
I agree with taking it slow right now. You stated your objections to her in writing in a rational manner, you contacted your lawyer, and by waiting for the lawyer to get back to you, you are demonstrating that you are remaining calm and collected in an extremely stressful and concerning situation.
Be prepared for more provocations...
Thanks painter.
I doubt I'll hear anything now for a few days. I know she's busy now until Sunday and I'll be out with S9 that day. Any txt, emails of phone calls will be ignored unless they are about S9.
I can feel her anger from here. I will say though that although it went pear shaped I'm glad I stuck my ground. Yes, she's really upset but considering the notions of respect, boundaries and as GB said conflict avoidance I think she got the message.
She has to come back at some point to get her stuff so it's straight back into DB mode. I know I'm not the only LBS that's been in this position.
I would consider this being one of HER low moments. Not sure if she's bottomed out but now SHE's out of the house. S9 WILL want to come home. That'll get to her.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
