I've spent way too much time trying to draft the perfect concise response to people attacking me and calling me a disrespecting liar. I want to respond but I also don't want to upset you, the mods/admin/OP and/or really, 25years more.
So my brief defense and hopefully this will end:
1. I didn't lie or disrespect 25years by relating a story about her emotional affair that she has posted about numerous times on the forum. If some didn't read it, they should research it themselves before accusing people of fabrication. I think it would be complete meta for me or anyone to copy her old posts on the subject and bring them to this thread. As a newbie, I have no idea if she can or will start a thread somewhere else to discuss and debate this further. I'd welcome the opportunity to respectfully clarify.
2. I wasn't there. Her previous posts all say she ended it before it "went too far" and discussed the benefits of keeping it a secret from her husband but now she's saying on this thread that it never happened, never went anywhere at all. Why would a "nothing happened" "almost affair" be a secret at all and/or behavior her husband may have felt compelled to forgive her for? Why is a "nothing happened almost affair" being touted as an example of why keeping real "something happened" affairs a secret? (these are rhetorical questions that I don't think or expect anyone to answer on NDY's thread. I point them hopefully to demonstrate I was TRYING to debate an opinion and not flame/disrespect 25years). I feel I am being held accountable for a story that's now changed.
3. I already apologized for upsetting 25years.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
