Abuse from a partner is not fixed through DR

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Cadet

Cadet, sorry fat finger syndrome, posted too soon, ran out of time

Whether MDW contributes is her choice, good if she will. Everything we are doing is developing another aspect of DB discussion an added dimension, that will be useful to some.

The board isn't an abuse board, when I first came here I was confused because I couldn't read any posts from PWAS who like I was were in abuse situations. I could see LBS behaving in ways that would drive their PWAS away but not for PWAS who wished to stand. Those that appeared were sometimes criticised for wanting to walk. That was tough to read and in fact someone struggling with wanting to walk also needs guidance.

Sandi developed the concept of the WS as opposed to the WAW a great new tool was available. I perceived that suddenly within the board the number of PWAS rose, I actually took a milestone poll at one stage in Newcombers. I also note that posters are staying longer, but would love to see the stats on that as that is anecdotal.

This proposed thread is a further tool, in IRL additional resources are needed both for an abuser and the target., and an idicator in how to access that is also helpful. A good start in that area is identifying risk. How good that is will depend on the originators and the quality of the material on it, important enough that guidance is important in it. I suspect like all threads it will have a life of its own and need strength to get back on topic!

Addiction and compulsion are further twists to the abuse drama. As you know I believe in the twelve steps process, so there is much to think about.

Thank you Z for permission to hijack your thread.

V